As a bride-to-be, I have a lot on my plate. Pinning my life away with ideas, looking at the budget, stressing over finding a home(& leaving mine), trying to decide if giving up late night cheesecake is worth fitting in my dress(of course it is…right?), and the list goes on and on. Most people have a future mother-in-law that bends over backwards to do whatever she possibly can to make this process much, much, easier. I don’t. Don’t get me wrong, I do love his mother. We get along great most of the time. At first she wasn’t too enthusiastic about the engagement, mostly due to
our, his, age. Anyway, we got past that(or so I thought) and she would bring up little things she saw on pinterest here and there and I was getting excited. I looked passed the lecture I got from her about how I(my mother, great-aunt, and myself) spent too much money on my wedding gown. First of all, YOU DIDN’T PAY A DIME FOR IT! Okay, so whatever. Oh, and I forgot to mention, when I went to try on dresses for the first time, she bailed. There was some lie about other work related plans, then that was “cancelled” so instead she went out to party. A few weekends ago I had made wedding planning plans for the morning and there was another lie about made-up plans. Like, just say that you don’t want to go. Jeeze. I’ve asked for a list of all of his side of the family from her(my fiance can’t seem to remember family members he’s grown up with his whole life) and now every time I ask she asks to see our list so far. I know that she isn’t concerned with who we have so far…she wants to see the amount of people on the list so she can give us some big lecture about how we “don’t need to invite everyone and their brother”. She will then go on to complain about how we(he and I, not her) are going to pay for all their food and favors and seating, ect. ect. I think maybe it is a control issue, maybe. Like, this is her chance to use her last bit of control before we’re married and on our own. But, then I’m confused because if she really wanted to control things, wouldn’t she be “helping” me a lot more than she is. I just sit and look pretty. As long as “he lives at home, he lives by their rules”. Kinda juvenile for a man getting married soon, right? Did I mention, we can’t even be alone together…like in his room or anything. I just know when the wedding day is here she will either try to brag and claim she put so much into it…or whine and moan that we, I, didn’t include her. So, there is that. I don’t know if anyone else has gone through this or is going through this but…you are not alone.